A Happy Home


Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth” (Proverbs 5:18). “Live joyfully with the wife whom thou lovest all the days of the life of thy vanity which he hath given thee under the sun, all the days of thy vanity: for that is thy portion in this life, and in thy labour which thou takest under the sun”(Ecc. 9:9).

In all of the realms of their marriage relationship, the husband is to rejoice and find joy with, in, through, and concerning his wife. He must not be filled with annoyance over her troublesome attributes, but must be filled with joy over her endearing qualities. He must not be regularly complaining about her faults and failures, but must be ever rejoicing over her efforts and accomplishments. He must not seek to avoid her company as much as possible, but must choose to enjoy her company. Yea, the husband must seek to make their time together upon this earth as happy and enjoyable as possible. He must live joyfully with his wife all the days of their life together. He must seek, as much as he is able, to create a happy, joyful, and enjoyable atmosphere within their marriage relationship, that he may find joy in and with his wife and that she may find joy in and with him. Let the husband then seek for ways to put a smile on his wife’s face, a bounce in her step, and a song in her heart.


Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.” (Eph. 5:33).

What then does it mean for the wife to reverence her husband? It means that she is to maintain a spirit and attitude of respect, esteem, and honor toward him. She is to hold him in an exalted place within her heart and to treat him with honor through her behavior. She is not to be critical of him, but to lift him up with honor. She is to adore him as her husband, to be attentive unto his thoughts and desires, and to be supportive of him and his pursuits. She is to be ever concerned to please him and to be ever cautious not to offend him. Though the wife will certainly be aware of her husband’s weaknesses and unworthiness, yet in her submission unto him she is to maintain a spirit of reverence toward him “as unto the Lord.”

By Scott Markle, taken from God’s Wisdom for Marriage and the Home



The New Year That Went Bad

…Demas hath forsaken me, having loved this present world, and is departed into Thessalonica…” II Timothy 4:10

The year A.D. 66 was definitely not a good year for Demas. It was in that year he forsook the will of God – the blessings of God. He also forsook Paul, the faithful servant of God. He forsook these treasures for a thing called “the world.” When the year began, did Demas plan to backslide and go into the world? Probably not. Did Demas take preventative measures to keep from going astray? Again, probably not.

What was it that Demas so loved in this world that he would forsake the ministry and his good friend? Was it a woman who captured his attention? Was it a business opportunity and the financial gain it promised that he just couldn’t pass up? Was it the glamour and glitter of the world that captured the desires of his flesh? Was it the easy life the world offered as opposed to the cross Christ demanded? We are not specifically told. And for good reason, because we are dealing with a principle, not an isolated and specific issue.

There are some Biblical principles Demas had either neglected or purposely violated. First, he did not heed what the Bible teaches about the world, that is, this world’s system. The world hates Christ and Christians (John 15:18-25). The world is at enmity with Christ (James 4:4). We are not to love the world, neither the things in the world (I John 2:15).

Secondly, Demas fell into the trap of only considering the temporal, not the eternal. Notice the reference “this present world.”

Someday, this present world will be destroyed – nothing this present world produces can ever last for eternity. God calls this present world “evil” (Galatians 1:4), and He wants to deliver us from it. We look forward to the new “world to come” (Hebrews 6:5).

Finally, Demas had his focus on the wrong things. We are to set our “affections on things above, not on things on the earth” (Colossians 3:1-2). Where our treasure is, there will our heart be also (Matthew 6:21). Demas did not lose his love for God, he left his love for God (Revelation 2:4). He allowed his affections to wander and as a result, his love grew cold.

We must be disciplined and keep our attention fixed on Christ. I trust that this year will be a great year for you and for me, and that we will finish the year for God – better than we began it.

Pastor David Harness Sr.